So maybe I’m an aunt

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I don’t know if I ever posted about this, but nine months ago, my brother had a one-night-stand with a girl who said she was on The Pill and I guess they didn’t use condoms because low and behold, she called him afterwards and said she was pregnant. This girl, it turns out, also slept with my best friend’s boyfriend before my brother and pulled the same stunt. Told him she was on The Pill, they had sex, she said she was pregnant. In an email exchange with my best friend, this girl admitted to wanting a baby and trying to get pregnant.

The sad part is that this girl has no permanent job, no family and no friends. I would call her white trash, but she may be the mother of my future nephew so I’ll reserve nasty comments.

Anyway, at ultrasounds (that my mother went to because OMG she was going to be a grandma!), the technician said that the baby was two weeks older than what it could be if it was my brothers. Now, I’ve been to one of these ultrasounds and they pinpointed the exact day that I conceived. So, ummm. Suspicious.

Throughout this pregnancy my brother has been kind of a mess. I mean, he’s 25-years-old and he’s been entrapped into potentially being a father FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE because he had a one-night-stand with a girl who was out to get pregnant. Because I’m sorry, if there’s an ‘accident’ (by accident I mean they were too drunk to use condoms), she should have gone to the pharmacy to get the morning after pill, which is what a normal person would have done.

I feel for my brother, I really do. But, he’s made some impressive changes in his life should this child be his. He’s applied for and gotten a great promotion at work and now works in an office closer to his house – it’s snapped him out of being a kid. She’s had minimal contact with him for nine months – and my brother hasn’t really made an effort to contact her. I mean, he hardly knows her and until there’s a paternity test, it could be anyone’s baby, so why get emotionally involved?

Fast-forward to last Sunday, and she’s had the baby (a boy!) but now she’s backing out of doing a paternity test because she’s not comfortable with it.

W00t?!?

Oh, but she still wants money from my brother.

I’ve spoken with my brother and told him no court will make him pay child support unless there’s a paternity test and to let her threaten away but until a lab confirms that he’s the father, he doesn’t owe her shit. (I’ve asked several lawyers about this.)

*sigh*

All of this makes me wonder what kind of girl would deliberately go out and get pregnant when she has no means of supporting herself, no job, and no family for support. What was missing in her life that she felt could only be filled with a child? Whatever it is, I think she’ll soon realize that the baby won’t make her whole again and the real loser in this scenario is the baby.

Unless, of course, this baby is my nephew. And then I’m going to be my damn best to make sure he knows what the word ‘family’ means.

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