(Since China has decided to unblock WordPress I’ll be posting here, if it gets blocked again, well, you know where to find me.)
Last night we were watching Big Love and I don’t know if it was the almost three bottles of wine he had consumed (me, none, as I’m fighting a cold at the moment) or the fact that he saw me looking enviously at the 18-year-old on the show that just got engaged, but he ran to the bedroom and grabbed my tulip ring (pictured in post below), and put it on my right hand and said he loved me and that this was a promise ring.
What did I say? “It’s the wrong hand.”
What was I thinking? “How dare you do this to me when you’re drunk, with a ring that’s already mine.”
What else did I say? “When are you going to buy me a real ring?”
His answer? “Well, I don’t know where to buy one.”
What else was I thinking? “Excuses, excuses.”
Because you see, there’s always an excuse and a reason why he hasn’t proposed yet and it’s starting to piss me off rather than make me sad, like it used to.
What did I really want to say to him? “Too little, too late. You’re going to have to do better than that if you want to make up for breaking my heart over and over again.”
Of course, I didn’t say anything of the sort because I’m generally non-confrontational and he was drunk and so there was really no point. In fact, I’m not even sure he remembered it at all this morning.
I’m not wearing the ring and don’t really know what to think about the whole thing.
7 Comments
March 27, 2009 at 7:33 pm
Maybe it’s time to be a little confrontational about it… not in a ’start an argument’ way but just in a ‘by the way it’s starting to piss me off and I might go home’ kind of way…. he won’t know unless you tell him (when he’s not drunk) x
March 27, 2009 at 7:36 pm
p.s. I seem to be getting somewhere with mine (was the same as yours with the ‘it seems like you just want to get engaged and it doesn’t matter who it’s to)..I turned round and said “By the way, I’ve found a ring, it’s lovely and not that expensive” and then showed it to him when we were walking past the shop.
Instead of the usual silence, I later got “If you’re really nice to me, we’ll see about getting you one”
March 27, 2009 at 9:01 pm
maybe it is time to just say that if it doesn’t happen your going home as pinky says. Firstly bring it up and see if he remembers. You can do this no confrontationally, and if he doesn’t then you can begin to unravel to him how you feel.
My view is that if you keep these words to yourself much long they will start to manifest into other parts of your relationship and then it really will begin to fall apart.
x
March 27, 2009 at 10:36 pm
I think the other ladies have hit it on the head pretty perfectly here. This is your LIFE mate, he needs to realise that he’s dallying with your future. If he’s not going to make some kind of serious commitment, I think you need to be true to yourself and go home – but you need to make it clear to him first that this is your intention, just to give him that chance. He might really have no idea that it’s moved to another level. Don’t let him fuck his life up through ignorance. If he fucks it up by ignoring this, then that;s one thing, but spell it out. Give it that chance xx
March 28, 2009 at 1:36 am
I agree with the others. It is your future. Maybe going home would be best…
March 28, 2009 at 4:05 am
Don’t get stuck in one place… I know you got used to him and to everything and it’s hard to lose it ..but i’m sure you’ll be able to find someone better, who won’t give you your own rinks, while being drunk, making promises, the ones he can’t remember the next day, while getting sober.
March 30, 2009 at 3:34 pm
Move back home and let him chase you ..